Do you ever find yourself stuck in the âwhat ifsâ when it comes to your health or career? Like, what if Iâd taken that opportunity to study biology in Canada? Or what if I had passed that med school entrance exam? And then thereâs the big oneâwhat if COVID hadnât completely changed my plans and future? These moments of wondering about roads not taken arenât just about lifeâthey can relate to our health journeys too.
Sometimes I think about those alternate pathsâwhat if Iâd chosen a different specialization, or taken more time for self-care before burnout hit? What if some setbacks hadnât happened? Would I be the therapist I am today? Would I have developed the same understanding and empathy I bring to my patients? These questions remind me how a single momentâa decision, an event, or even a health crisisâcan redirect our entire path.
But hereâs the thing: none of those âwhat ifâ scenarios built my current life or my practice. Iâve built this through hard work, setbacks, and lessons learned the hard way. Iâve seen patients lose hope and rebuild their strength, and Iâve learned that recovery isnât perfect, but itâs real and meaningful. The knowledge Iâve gained from my experiencesâand from my patientsâ storiesâshapes how I treat today.
In physiotherapy, just like in life, we often see people comparing their progress to othersâ highlight reelsâperfect posture, flawless movement, speedy recoveries. But behind every success are hours of struggle, frustration, and persistence. What you see isnât the full picture, and it never is. Real healing is messy, imperfect, and deeply personal.
Itâs easy to get caught up in comparing ourselves to others or replaying the âwhat ifsâ in our headsâbut that mindset only drags us down and steals our peace. Instead, letâs shift focus to appreciating the whole story of who we are right now, scars and all.
đ§Ș Letâs Experiment
Stop dwelling on âwhat ifsâ and embrace your unique journeyâflaws, struggles, and all.
Donât waste time being jealous of other peopleâs lives or stuck on your “what ifs.” It only makes you unhappy and poisons your mind. You canât just cherry-pick the parts you like. You have to take the whole packageâflaws, experiences (both good and bad), how you see yourself, your family, your achievements, and your lossesâor nothing at all.
đŻ Try This:
Next time you catch yourself comparing or wondering âwhat if,â pause and ask: Would I truly want to trade lives with that personâchallenges, doubts, and all? If the answer is no, let it go. Redirect that energy toward your own path instead.
đ§ Final Thought:
Comparison fades when you see your life for what it truly isâuniquely yours, with strengths no one else can replicate. Own your story. Thatâs where real confidence begins.
Keep it simple, stay curious, and keep learningâyouâve got this.
Take care,
Carina đŠ
