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Someone shares exciting news—she got promoted, he met someone and instantly clicked, she graduated with honors. How do you react?

Shelly Gable, a psychology professor at UC Santa Barbara, identifies four ways people respond to good news. It’s called Active-Constructive Responding (ACR), and how you respond can deeply influence the happiness and longevity of your relationships.

ACR revolves around two key questions:

• Are you responding actively or passively?
• Is your response supportive or dismissive?

And this matters just as much in physiotherapy. When a patient shares good news—whether they’ve nailed an exercise, felt less pain, or squeezed in a workout—your response can make or break the connection you share.

Your reaction shapes trust and motivation. A genuinely positive, excited response helps patients feel supported and encouraged, making them far more likely to stick with their recovery plan.

Imagine these four different responses to good news in action:

• The Joy Amplifier
  This person is your biggest cheerleader. They celebrate your win fully and authentically. They might say:
  
  “That’s fantastic! You’re making amazing progress! Tell me more—how did it feel?”
  
  They’re genuinely excited, eager to hear every detail. As a physio, be the joy amplifier for your patients. Give them that extra boost of encouragement. And as a patient? Find a therapist who celebrates your progress like this.

• The Conversation Killer
  They respond politely but without real enthusiasm. Something like:
  
  “Oh, that’s great for you.”
  
  It’s positive on the surface but drains the energy right out of the moment. As a physio, this response can deflate your patient’s motivation. As a patient, you deserve better.

• The Conversation Hijacker
  They ignore your good news and instantly switch the focus to themselves:
  
  “Speaking of that, I had a rough day…”
  
  Your achievement gets sidelined and their issues take center stage. Physios, don’t be this person—let your patients shine and celebrate their wins. And patients, remember: your progress should be the star of your therapy.

• The Joy Thief
  This is the worst. They respond with jealousy or guilt-tripping, like:
  
  “Oh, so you don’t need my help anymore?”
  
  In seconds, they steal your joy and leave you doubting yourself. I once had a physio who did exactly this—after months of pain, when I finally felt unstoppable, they crushed my excitement. That memory still stings.

So ask yourself: As a physio, how do you want your patients to feel when they share their progress? And as a patient, how do you want to feel when you tell your therapist about your wins?

Now that you see how your reaction to good news shapes relationships and recovery, let’s put this into action with a simple experiment you can try today—whether you’re the physio or the patient.

🧪 Let’s Experiment

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Celebrate every win—big or small
—and watch your connection grow stronger.

Now that you know how powerful your response to good news can be, let’s try putting it into practice.

🎯 Try This:

As a physio, make it a daily habit to truly celebrate your patient’s progress. Instead of a simple “Good job,” ask questions that show you care and want to understand their experience:

• “What do you think helped you make this progress?”
• “How did it feel to finally reach this milestone?”
• “What’s been different this week compared to before?”

This kind of curiosity not only builds trust but also boosts their motivation to keep going.

And as a patient, don’t hold back on sharing your wins with your therapist—whether it’s walking a bit farther, feeling less pain, or simply sticking to your exercises for a few days. Your successes are the fuel for your recovery journey. When you share them, your therapist can cheer you on and tailor support that fits your progress.

🧠 Final Thought:

Your ability to give sustainably depends on seeing that your giving truly makes a difference. When you learn to recognize and nurture those moments, you’ll not only preserve your energy—you’ll amplify the positive impact you have on others.

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Keep it simple, stay curious, and keep learning—you’ve got this.

Take care,

Carina 🦊